state of the union

How fitting is it that the State of the Union address should be on television on the very same day my husband and I discuss the state of our union?  

Much like the country, we had a lot to talk about. Things people tend to push to the back burner until the pot boils over, making a great big mess of the whole stove.

After nine years together, my husband just realized I’m OCD. Oh, I think he knew it, in theory at least. But today, it seemed to click in his head what that really means. It gave him a new understanding of my various quirks…why I do things the way I do. And I discovered why he reacts to things the way he does.

It was quite enlightening. And I think that’s a good thing. For the first time in a long time, I felt understood.

More couples should sit down and take stock in their relationships (and maybe not wait so long to do it.)  People rush too quickly into separation or divorce without discovering the reasons behind it. When the going gets tough, the tough get going…right out the door…when we should probably stop in our tracks and stick it out, at least until we’re sure leaving is the right thing to do.

And clearly, it can be the right thing for some people.

Lucky for me, the right thing is to take stock and reorganize. And just maybe, my husband will begin to appreciate the extra voices in my head. Hey, it’s not like they’re going anywhere…they were here first!

Until the next time…I’ll be taking turns listening to the voices, and my husband.

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Posted on January 24, 2012 .